Ladies, I’ve been there. I know how hard it can be so critical with yourself that you can barely look in the mirror. The reality is that a lot of our troubles stem from comparison causing us to feel like our life is incomplete - so here are a few of my favorite tips to get you out of your mind and into a happier life.
Unfollow anyone famous for having “the perfect body”- For me, looking at women with flawless bodies only made me feel shitty about myself. Who wants to have the thought “ugh I could never look like that” 10x a day? So I unfollowed every. single. person who has an account purely to show off their bodies. I now try to focus my time on people who have more to give to the world than booty pics.
Spend less (or no) time with any person that doesn’t bring you joy- For some reason, we all do this. We follow people on social media that make us cringe, or we hang out with people we don’t really like being around because it's the polite thing to do. The truth is that you don’t have to do anything you want, and that means that you don’t have to follow someone on instagram just because they follow you, or because you’ve known them forever. Give yourself permission to let go
Stop listening to sad songs- This one is pretty self-explanatory. Most sad songs were written during a dark time in the singer’s life. Naturally, hearing the song will bring you back to a sad time in your life. There are of course times where you’ll want to listen to sad songs, but I try to never have them on my playlists.
Ditch your dark shows- OK, this is easier said than done. This is coming from someone who loves dark shows like Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad, Nip/Tuck, Orange is the New Black, Harlots, and The Handmaid’s Tale. I’m also someone who has a lot of nightmares, which I noticed an increase in frequency after watching these shows, and my husband said “what do these shows bring to our life?” After thinking that through, he was right. I still watch GoT and a few others, but I try to not have more than one depressing show at a time. I’ve taken a strong liking to lighthearted rom-coms and The Bachelor.
Go outside- There’s a thing called “forest bathing” where you take leisurely walks through the forest and there are all sorts of health benefits- check it out. It’s pretty cool.